As you'll notice, Our Holley House has a new look! I've been thinking about giving the blog a makeover for a few days, and the time has come. Goodbye, wedding cake background! Hello summer!
The change coincides not only with the warmer weather outside (thank goodness our landlord finally got our swamp cooler working!) but also with a shifting season within our house. Of course, James and I have decided that in some respects, we'll probably behave like newlyweds even when we're 80. But in reality, newlywed phase is slowly giving way to something more like married life.
Don't get me wrong, I still have ridiculously giddy moments with James. I still have times where it all feels totally surreal, and I cannot believe that I am married. And I remain absurdly, completely, overwhelmingly in love with my sweet husband.
But I don't have to hang on to the title of "newlywed" to be unreservedly in love. I am a wife. I am a partner. I am a lover. I am a companion. Soon I will also become a mother to his children. None of these will fade. Each of them, I am certain, will only become greater and better as time passes.
So, welcome summer. Welcome life. I am excited to enjoy each moment you have to offer us.
Showing posts with label newlywed phase. Show all posts
Showing posts with label newlywed phase. Show all posts
Tuesday, May 14, 2013
Friday, May 3, 2013
Four Months!
Holy cow, we've been married four months today. 120 days! It's almost hard to believe. I just have to say, time is flowing waaaaaaaaaaay more quickly now than it ever did while we were engaged!!!
Some fun things that have happened recently:
-James had his first ever 4.0 semester! My genius husband!
-He ALSO got full-tuition scholarships for spring, fall and winter semesters. SO nice!
-We both competed at the Utah State Championships--our demonstration team took first place (woot!), James took first in weapons and poomsae, I took third in poomsae, and we took silver in PAIRS poomsae, the first time we've competed together as a team, which we had a blast with.
-We spent a weekend in Arches National Park, which was great! (Though very windy)
-We both judged at a tournament that our studio hosted, which went very well.
-My publisher has finally scheduled my second book for release! Tentatively it's set to come out June 29th. Soooooo exciting!
Married life is great. We really enjoy one another, spending time together--whether it's off having grand adventures in Arches or New York City, or whether it's chilling at home reading. We have our challenges and our struggles, but we handle them together. We are, quite literally, a team. And it's the best!
Some fun things that have happened recently:
-James had his first ever 4.0 semester! My genius husband!
-He ALSO got full-tuition scholarships for spring, fall and winter semesters. SO nice!
-We both competed at the Utah State Championships--our demonstration team took first place (woot!), James took first in weapons and poomsae, I took third in poomsae, and we took silver in PAIRS poomsae, the first time we've competed together as a team, which we had a blast with.
-We spent a weekend in Arches National Park, which was great! (Though very windy)
-We both judged at a tournament that our studio hosted, which went very well.
-My publisher has finally scheduled my second book for release! Tentatively it's set to come out June 29th. Soooooo exciting!
Married life is great. We really enjoy one another, spending time together--whether it's off having grand adventures in Arches or New York City, or whether it's chilling at home reading. We have our challenges and our struggles, but we handle them together. We are, quite literally, a team. And it's the best!
Monday, February 25, 2013
Quit your naysaying!
I can't tell you how many times lately that, upon expressing joy and happiness with regards to my marriage, I get told something like, "Oh, just wait." For instance, upon telling someone that James does all the dishes at our house, I received this response: "You're still in newlywed phase, that will change."
My question is, does newlywed phase have to end?
I understand that parts of this bliss may change, may fade or die down somewhat. Especially when the children come, life and relationships do change. I get it.
But I like feeling dewy-eyed. I like experiencing all my husband's quirks. I like spending this much time with him. I like marriage.
Furthermore, I don't see why things like James doing the dishes should have to change. We have a great deal worked out. He does the dishes, and I keep the rest of the house clean. I hate hate hate doing dishes. The fact that James does them makes me very happy. He knows it makes me happy, and has told me, on multiple occasions, that he's content with our arrangement. Is it some fact of life that men become less considerate, less helpful, less loving, six or so months after getting married? Or is it simply that these particular men were less considerate to begin with, and put on a show during a period in which they felt they had to be most impressive, and upon feeling secure in their marriage, revert to their old ways? Well, if that's the case, I'm feeling pretty safe with regards to my dishes getting done, and I'd appreciate it if everybody would quit raining on my parade.
I could go on, but I think I'll cut things short before I get entirely out of hand. Basically, my thought is this: Marriage is not perfect. But it can be pretty darn great, if both partners are willing to work at it, and keep the other person's happiness before their own. That's been working pretty well for us so far, and I see no reason to put an expiration date on this state of bliss. Thank you very much.
My question is, does newlywed phase have to end?
I understand that parts of this bliss may change, may fade or die down somewhat. Especially when the children come, life and relationships do change. I get it.
But I like feeling dewy-eyed. I like experiencing all my husband's quirks. I like spending this much time with him. I like marriage.
Furthermore, I don't see why things like James doing the dishes should have to change. We have a great deal worked out. He does the dishes, and I keep the rest of the house clean. I hate hate hate doing dishes. The fact that James does them makes me very happy. He knows it makes me happy, and has told me, on multiple occasions, that he's content with our arrangement. Is it some fact of life that men become less considerate, less helpful, less loving, six or so months after getting married? Or is it simply that these particular men were less considerate to begin with, and put on a show during a period in which they felt they had to be most impressive, and upon feeling secure in their marriage, revert to their old ways? Well, if that's the case, I'm feeling pretty safe with regards to my dishes getting done, and I'd appreciate it if everybody would quit raining on my parade.
I could go on, but I think I'll cut things short before I get entirely out of hand. Basically, my thought is this: Marriage is not perfect. But it can be pretty darn great, if both partners are willing to work at it, and keep the other person's happiness before their own. That's been working pretty well for us so far, and I see no reason to put an expiration date on this state of bliss. Thank you very much.
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